Why does this all happen?

Not many of you know that I live with an abusive dad. My mother is in denial about everything that goes on in the house, my dad is mad and takes his anger/stress out on me. My mom wishes for a divorce but she cant afford to pay for me and my brother and because of my brothers assortment of problems he cant work for the stress may kill him.

Things are really rough but one thing I always wanted to know. Why, why me to be picked on. Maybe because I am the youngest or is it the fact that I was an accident. I don't really know but the one thing I do now this sucks. Today I got bored and wrote 'To Write Love On Her Arms' and was planning on taking a picture for fun. But my father had seen it and says "Writing on your hands encourages getting tattoos I am going to make you regret writing on your hands."(Of course my dad is completely against tattoos)

He grabs my arm then drags my ass to the kitchen sick he runs some hot water that felt like my skin was burning and proceeds to take a thing of steel wool. He runs it up and down my wrist with no soup under the burning hot water peeling away my skin and the writing. My wrist didn't bleed much but now it is super sensitive to everything.

I guess I just really needed to vent/tell someone. I am still participating in TWLOHA Day but I am sure the next time will hurt much more. I just wish someone could explain why all this happens to me and not my brothers or sister. :/

you need to get out of the house, and NOW.

He cannot be doing this to you, you really need to contact some one

Talk to a guidance counselor in school or something, this is not right and not fair.

You cannot blame yourself for this, my mother abused me very badly as well, and I do not see her at all anymore.

Please tell someone of authority, and get help, get out of the house before something very serious happens, worse than what has already happened.

Please please get out.

You can phone the kids help line and talk to them, but I really advise getting out and getting help.

Vanish, she cant just leave, if she does, she leaves her siblings to take what she is.

There has to be a better way, to keep her and her siblings safe from an abusive father.

yes but i think that better way would be to talk to someone in school, like during school.

I didnt mean leave as in that, i meant as in talk to someone in school and get help, they will do the rest.

If not someone will find it out and report it, and the police will get involved, which might be the best thing to make it stop.

What he is doing is illegal and assault.

He CANNOT do that to anyone. and it is not anyones fault.

He may be sick, or something, and still that does not justify his actions.

Please talk to someone in school, a guidance counselor, teacher anyone who is an adult and can help.

Hidden eyes. think of it like this... at least it's happing to you and not them?
your protecting them right now?
also, if he is abusing you... by going to the your guidance council you can be taken out of that home and put your dad in jail... also, your bro and sis and mom could all leave to?
also, for Friday's event... write it on your arm and take pics and then wash it off. very fast.

here are some tips that might help you see the Brighter side to this

- at least it's not your brother and sister being abused ( as much as you would rather it be them then you they are probably thanking you so much for it)

- these events will make you a stronger person. you will become something MUCH greater then your dad if you start to make a difference and tell someone your story?


- sooner or later your going to get really sick and tired of your dad's abuse... sooner or later your going to get so mad and hurt that your going to just snap on him... and he is going to lose it on you... so don't let it get that far? stop the pain and stuff now and go to an adult at your school? or call the police? TAKE pictures of the damage he does to you!

thanks everyone
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no problem , if you ever need more help make sure you come and tal to us, we are here for you, and will do whatever in our power to help

SV that is unfortunately not ttrue, police believe EVERY child even if the accused is found not guilty.

I know this for a fact through my own experiences.

You cannot wait it out, you will be putting yourself in danger if you wait it out.

I have talked to my counselor on what to do if a friend was in crisis and they said the best thing to do is to tell someone you can trust.

Venting is a good idea, but fighting your father is not a great idea.

If you fight him, he can end up chrging you, and with counter charges (you against him) nothing will come outof it as you will have been doing it for self defence, and he has no justifcation for his action.

In English that means you may be charged, but he will be charged once the truth comes out. His charge will be lessened if you fight back and injure him.

Please do tell someone, that is the safest way to deal with this. Waiting it out is really NOT advised, as the abuse can become more violent and you can become seriously hurt.

In situations such as these, you need to fend for yourself before your siblings.

It's a cold hearted thing to do, but you do no good staying harms reach and keeping quiet.

The police actually have to take these things with full concern and take it all seriously. Child abuse is not a laughing matter, and upon calling them you will learn that.

Talk to a School councellor or Principle if you are unsure of the Laws and Legals issues, as they can point you in the direction of someone who can help you with that and will do so right away.

After talking with the Police they will conduct a search and test of the residents of your household to see if there is infact abuse going on. Should you feel unsafe returning to the household if (in the unlikely event) they deem your father a safe person to be around, you can speak up and they will find you a place to stay. They are bound by law, and cannot force you to stay in a place you truly feel unsafe.


This is where I need to step up for a moment. I have no doubt that you are telling the truth, however, should your story be that of fictional work you should know that your father can possibly serve 10-25 years in jail for the offence you are accusing him of. There is a difference between child abuse, and diciplinary action. Obviously the actions described in your rant are abusive and should be dealt with immediately.

I've seen in many court cases a child over-exagerate the offence over something as silly as a game console. So please, do not over-exaggerate should you take the offence to court (as is your legal right).

I agree, as I have been to court myself, and I know how they pick your head apart to make sure you are NOT lying or over-exaggerating.

These facts above are the easiest most safest way to becoe safe, and even if you do not feel comfortable in your home and the police say you can stay there and you choose not to, you can tell them that your siblings should be able to go to a safe place so that they too are protected.